The fear of losing all that we hold dear is one of the strongest powers or controls that The Cult us able to inculcate in the members. Being in the situation you describe for so many is so horribly stressful and debilitating. While in that place all choices that we might normally make seem all wrong. Such is the depth of the programming.
At some point we must muster the determination to break free even though it may mean the temporary loss of those we think of as our "loved ones." The sooner this is done the better but, it is never without consequences. The Cult has made sure of that.
The example of the "prodigal son" makes it quite clear that parents are not able to do much more than set an example of what is good and hope that our offspring eventually regain their senses. As a matter of fact it seems that your daughter has already broken free of the doctrine and dogma but is rendered helpless by emotional ties.
Looks to me that you're doing just what you need to do. I believe that your daughter will in time find the strength to do what she must to break the bonds of emotional deception which are presently holding her hostage. People who are conscientious and loving always have the most difficult time with the process of breaking free. Until they finally realize that their loving thoughts and actions aren't returned with sincerity.
These sorts of experiences, though heart rending and calamitous, are beneficial in the long run to our growth once we work through them. There is light at the end of every tunnel.
